Ghosted
jacka212
100 days have passed since your letter was received and you still haven't gotten a response. You've been ghosted :( Take this stamp with our condolences.
The stamp shows a sad ghost and is unlocked when your letter is ignored for more than 100 days.
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dxxmxnd
I like the idea! Personally, it oftentimes takes me more than 3 months (which equals to around 90 days which is almost 100 days) to write a friend back. Maybe a longer period of time would be more fitting? Maybe two years?
Since I'm a very positive person, the sad ghost doesn't appeal to me. Maybe a cute ghost or a cheeky one sticking out their tongue can be another option?
I think it's also important that the recipient has received AND read the letter to unlock this stamp.
jacka212
Another option for the stamp design can be more positive, encouraging people to focus on the moments of connection in a transient world. I'm not sure what this would like like so share your own ideas.
StapleHead99
I actually don't like this Idea. I have some penpals where we don't write in a year and then we'll write again. It would give them or me a false sense of being left alone.
jacka212
StapleHead99
Thank you for your feedback.
I think there is some question about how to define ghosting but most of us agree that ghosting is a thing and I think most of the time 100 days is enough to say you've been ghosted. It's probably more helpful to move on with life and if a year later old friend suddenly shows up again then you can enjoy that pleasant surprise as well.
StapleHead99
jacka212 I understand your point. But still I think different. Another example. I could have deleted a friend from China, because her last reply was 2 years ago. Then BAM, suddenly she wrote back to me after 2 years just last week. Maybe I wouldn't have kept her in my contacts, if I got a "ghosted" from that.
jacka212
StapleHead99
How you choose to react to being ghosted is up to you. You can think of it like a "nudge" to move on, but moving on isn't the same as giving up. I think it's the same as friends from the "real world" that fall out of touch for years at a time but then sometimes pop back in.
The point is that for most people having a friend vanish without a word for a long time after you've established a connection can hurt and I think a stamp can be something to sweeten the sadness.
ladiscoparty
I think this is a really cool idea! Honestly, I think 100 days is a pretty fair amount of time to determine that you've been ghosted. I've had people write me back after a few months of not hearing for them, mostly because they've gotten busy or just that they have several pen pals and didn't have a ton of time to write me back. I hope this stamp becomes a real thing!
魏佚名
有趣的郵票...但過去了100天..似乎也太悲傷了吧~~
能夠有從20天、40天......慢慢累計的悲傷等級嗎?
jacka212
Another option for the stamp design might be an unopened envelope with "RETURN TO SENDER" stamped in big red letters across the front.
Maryam_._
100 days is kinda long i think 2 months is enough to say you're ghosted even if it's also too much but who knows what's going on in each other's lives
jacka212
Maryam_._
Thank you for your feedback.
It's hard to set an exact definition for ghosting, especially for a platform dedicated to slow communication. Life is full of unexpected surprises and sometimes people really do disappear for long stretches because they're dealing with something. I picked 100 days because it's an easy number, but also because I wanted to err on the side of being generous to the silent penpal.